Bullying Prevention Strategies:
- Use “I” Messages to Express Yourself.
- I Messages:
- Change the tone from blaming to explaining.
- Tells the person your speaking with what you want and why.
- They are easier to say when you’re upset.
- Are less emotionally charged.
- I Messages:
- To Effectively Use an I-Message, Follow These Steps!
- Say the bully’s name.
- Tell how you feel when they bully you.
- State what you want.
- Be Confident!
- Use Eye Contact.
- Have a Strong Body Posture.
- Use a Steady and Firm Voice.
- Ignore and leave the situation.
- Never let them see you upset.
- Have thick skin.
- Use humor to deflect.
- Avoid situations or places that are going to be problematic.
- Don’t antagonize or enflame the situation.
- Practice comebacks.
- Stand up for others if it’s safe.
- Safety in numbers
- Include others who look alone or are left out.
- Don’t isolate yourself from others.
- Make friends.
Rehearse and Role Play to Help Your Child!
Websites for more information:
- http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/ (kids)
- http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/bullies.html (kids)
- http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/friends/bullies/ (kids)
- The ABCs of Bullying: Addressing, Blocking, and Curbing School Aggression (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)
- Bullying and Victimization: What Adults Can Do [PDF] (U.S. Department of Agriculture)
- COPS Teen Action Toolkit [PDF]
This toolkit includes a blueprint for engaging youth in community problem solving around the issue of teen victimization. Teen Action Partnership for Teen Victims is a youth-led civic engagement program designed to improve local policies, outreach, and services to teen victims of crime.
- Electronic Aggression (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)
- “Make Time To Listen…Take Time To Talk…ABOUT BULLYING” [PDF] (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)
- Out on a Limb: A Guide to Getting Along
Designed for second to fourth graders, this interactive guide helps children work through conflict.
- Some Facts About Bullying Among Children and Young People [PDF]
This information sheet describes what we know about children and youth who bully, including how much bullying is actually happening, where bullying occurs, and what group bullying looks like.
- STRYVE: Striving to Reduce Violence Everywhere (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)
- To BullyProof or Not to BullyProof: That is the Question (U.S. Department of Agriculture)
- Youth Violence Prevention (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)
- University of Colorado at Boulder: Center for the Study and Prevention of Violence Blueprints for Violence Prevention
- U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration: National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices
- U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention: Model Programs Guide