Paul S. Roodbeen

Paul S. Roodbeen, MA, LLP

Paul is a Limited Licensed Psychologist and Certified School Psychologist with over 15 years experience working with families ranging from those that would be considered “at-risk” to those that would be seen as typical or average.  Experiencing the events leading up to and the eventual divorce of his own parents when Paul was already a mature adult, certainly taught him that no one is immune from the complex effects of divorce.

These diverse experiences have revealed a constant theme when adults are faced with making the tough decision to end a marriage.  Divorce is extremely difficult for all those involved – especially the children.  For some, it is difficult to imagine how these adult events are seen through the eyes of a child and shape a young person’s life forever.

The impact of this adult driven decision varies in each situation of course, but in many cases, the effects on the children can be significant.  In the best of situations, children of divorce often experience short-term psychological adjustments in terms of their sense of stability, or their sense of day to day “normalcy”.  Frequently, children may experience feelings of guilt, shame, confusion, abandonment, rejection, and self-doubt.  These can lead to psychological issues such as, depression, anger, anxiety, behavioral acting out, inattention, aggression, substance abuse issues, and/or emotional irregularities, just to name a few.

Many factors, including how the parents interact with each other during the divorce process, the age and developmental level of children, how the parents refer to each other, and how willing all involved are in doing what’s best for the “new” family unit will all influence this difficult time of transition.  The concept of child-centered mediated divorce is very appealing to those couples who wish to work through this difficult period while being vigilant of how their actions will affect the lives of their nuclear family.

. . . For all types of disputes, including those when children are not involved, the mediation process offers many benefits.  It allows both parties the opportunity to have meaningful input and control into developing an acceptable resolution to even the most complex of situations.  This allows both parties to move forward in a collaborative and effective way.  Additionally, mediation is extremely empowering and offers the “win-win” outcome that litigation cannot. Paul S. Roodbeen